The Daddy’s View

What's the first thing everyone says when you are expecting… “Enjoy the sleep and freedom while you can” and you just laugh along thinking it will not be that bad, I mean how can something so small turn your life upside down, but they do. It's hard to explain the tiredness you get looking after a new baby, me and Charlotte would take it in turns with the night feeds and night wakes but even doing this you feel like you still do not get any rest, and in truth, you wish the time away just waiting for a good night sleep again. Then eventually they grow up (way too fast), you start getting more and more sleep and then bang, another baby is on its way and straight away the bad memories of sleep come back. If you were getting enough sleep to have a nightmare, then the bad memories would be back. But, when you focus on the sleep and what the sleep means and what the baby needs, it becomes so much clearer. Understanding what they do and why they do it makes such a difference.

For our second child, the difference has been life changing. It does not have to be as hard as it is, don’t waste this time, make the most of it. Without doubt you will look back on this time with them and wonder where it went, you will never have it again. Don’t resent them for stealing your sleep and freedom but cherish the fact that they need you, don’t be too stubborn to ask for help, having and raising a child is one of the hardest and greatest achievements.

For all the Dads and Mum’s who think they can just battle through, just remember there is a reason for everything, it's just working out what that reason is. Charlotte did not ask me to write this but seeing how passionate she is to help people and the satisfaction when she tells me she has helped somebody else is amazing to see. As a dad, I would be the first to question paying for help, “Lets just get on with it” but just understand Mum’s and Dad’s have it hard enough, little changes can make the biggest difference to our lives.

My little ones are now growing up…. I look back now with only good memories, our brains try to forget the bad memories, after all, its good memories we all want. So for anyone in two minds on if they need help, if you have taken the time to read this (Thank you) then please contact Charlotte, or any other sleep coach. Reach out for support, make the most of the time you have with them, don’t regret or envy them for the challenges they provide.

One day you will look back in a way you cant imagine right now… and wish for one more cuddle at 3 am in the morning with your little one.

Daddy